Don't Make a Scene

Yesterday, I watched as a classic situation played out on the green lawn in Central Park. A man spoke to his woman in raised tones, complaining that she 'did not understand his new scene.' Apart from his association of himself with a scene, my response was 'Methinks the lady doth protest too much.' However, despite my initial reaction, I later found myself wondering, 'does she?'

Unlike our guy, a man must always take great care to define his personal life through the words he uses and the actions he takes. As in the writing of literature, gross stereotypes and pithy jokes may be effectual in the short term, but true artistry requires a determined and refined approach.

For instance, characterizing oneself through the adoption of distinctive lifestyle choices will give you one of three things: a strong presence and prominence in a group, an exceptionally blasé deportment, or worse. While not everyone wants to be the center of attention, very few want to blend in with the wallpaper. Alternately, you could even grow up to become an oversized bro - misfit, ultra tan, and wearing Ed Hardy. No bueno. As a male, know what you are; know what you want to be and achieve that. If you're unsure, it's time to go to the tailor.

Fortunately, you are prepared to man up and strive for a strong personal presence. In following the Man Blog, you’ve made your first step towards greatness; it only remains to embark upon an exciting quest for a well-tailored character. Take these three style tips to heart, apply the base concepts to your personality, and you will never have to explain your 'scene' to a protesting female.

1. Choose the right pair of oxfords. When determining what defines your personality, you must choose the aspects that are able to go to the end of the world (and back) with you. Some may equate this with their dashing sense of humor and ability to see the funny side of every situation, while others pack a sparkling wit and an innate sense of direction. Like a snug pair of shoes, this foundational part of you must endure what the street-level demons throws at you – be it mud, dust of the road, or even a well placed taxi.

2. Select a practical tie. Face it – your tie should define you more clearly than your nametag. Too wide, you seem overstated and wordy; too slim, you appear mysterious and even dangerously unsubstantive (though there is a setting for skinny ties). Similarly, some behaviors will always define you. Your treatment of women, choice of words, appreciation of friends, and knowledge of man skills are your tie. Choose them wisely, and the world will notice.

3. Search for the perfect jacket. World War II wasn’t won in a day, Ross Perot didn’t get votes with his first chart, and the first jacket you wear won’t fit like a glove. Granted, Perot still doesn’t get votes, but with effort, you will find a sport coat that seems like it was made for you. Lifestyles evolve and become more complex as the years go on. Though yours will change with your age, take care when considering rebuilding it altogether. Yes, alterations need to be made, but like the sport coat, finding one that fits well is a rare experience. Hold on to what holds you together.

The worst possible thing that could happen to a band with their sophomore release is a change in musical style; likewise, the worst possible thing you can do is change your behavior when it's working for you. Unlike Daniel Powter, you want more than fifteen minutes of fame. Commit yourself to an approach and continue to improve upon your imperfections or you'll end up with more than a 'Bad Day'. Take a step in the right direction, follow through, keep moving, and you will be on your way to a well-tailored disposition in no time.

As always,

Godspeed.

MOTMB